Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Ever since I stepped into this metropolitan city from a small town, it seems like I am exposed to a completely different world. No one can deny that life in big cities is more difficult than smaller towns but does that mean we don’t need to care for others; we should be mean to everybody? No, right? Then why are we? Let me take you through one little incident of my life which made a big difference.
I always have to take a crowded bus to reach my college. It’s very hard to find a place where we can stand comfortably without pushed by someone, let alone getting a seat. Whenever a passenger leaves his seat to get down from the bus, everybody around that seat rushes to grab that seat. No one seems to care about the elderly people or women who are standing there. It doesn’t feel that we are living in human world. It becomes more difficult to carry a bag with you but I need to carry it every day. One day when I took that bus to go home back from college, it was very much crowded as usual. Somehow I boarded the bus and dragged myself ahead towards the front part of the bus so that I can keep my bag in the shelf but found it impossible to reach there. I stood there beside a seat where an elderly man and a girl were sitting. I was struggling hard to hold my bag in my hand as I was carrying some books weighing more than 7 kilograms. It’s not that I cannot hold 7 kilos in my hand, it were the people who were passing by congested space pushing everyone aside who was standing there. On top of that, it was a hot afternoon of June and I was constantly wiping sweat from my face. She noticed me getting fidgety and offered to hold the bag. I gave him the bag and felt relieved. I felt happy because the help was unexpected and that little ‘thank you’ word looks nothing for what she has done to me by that act. It is very unusual to get help in a crowded bus from three kinds of persons; a beautiful girl, a big bellied well dressed person and fat ignorant lady who always chews something or other and finds seat for herself anyhow.
She lost nothing by this small help but by this act she made me very happy. All my worries faded away. I never knew this little help of someone can make me that happy. It had overarching effects on me. It came most unexpected. That event inspired me to help others by these kind of small acts which can have positive impact on others. Whenever I get seat in any bus now, I look around and check if there is someone who needs that seat more than me.
Whenever I used to hear this quote ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’, I used to think that the world is such a big place for just one person to change. But that event changed my mind-set. Now I am aware of the multi-productive effects of these little acts which can make big difference to someone’s life.
That single event has positive effects on my life and behavior and I hope that the change in my behavior will affect others. This way it can make some difference in many persons’ lives. I hope whoever will read this post, if in a situation, is going to offer his seat to someone who are more in need of it or speak politely to his co-passengers or similar acts. If followed, Don’t you think no one can stop this world from becoming a better place to live?
Saturday, February 23, 2013
A newborn baby's mind is like a tabula rasa (blank state) which is then shaped by the forces of society and the environment around him/her. The people we see around us and whatever their nature or personality is, all shaped by the different environment they come into contact. All the people they ever came into contact with them certainly have some impression to a certain extent on them.
This world is full of bad personalities too, the persons who are not good for the society, there might be murderers, thieves or any kind of criminals. Whenever we see them or read about them, it’s certain that we may hate them but have you ever thought about why they act that way. A few of them might be in very bad circumstances but most of them have low values in their lives. There are many people who are in acute need of something but they don’t choose the path of crime to fulfill their needs. A person with low values might resort to a path which is not acceptable in society in order to fulfill his/her need. The newspapers are filled with news of crimes, scams or anything which reflects the deteriorating values in lives of people. Is their life worth living???
I don’t know how fix those spoiled personalities but I think I certainly know how to save the future generations from spoiling, by fixing their childhood. If you are earning money through bad means and you expect your children to be honest and loyal citizen then you are wrong. First of all set examples to them by being honest to your family, to your friends and to your government. I have seen the parents who make a lot of money by wrong means they have no control over kids, their kids are not successful. Just look around you, you will find lots of examples. I have seen those families who are driven by moral values in their life, they are satisfied with their life and their children are doing well in their life.
Be well managed and treat everyone well at-least in front of your kids because they are going to learn everything what they see. If a person calls you and you don't want to talk just don't tell your children to lie on the phone.
Teach them moral values. Make them understand how important it is to have values in our lives. Make them realize 'A life without values is like a car without steering'.
The future of your kid is in your hand, and the best way to save their future by being a role model to them. This is the least you can do for contributing towards a better world.